Parenting Difficult Children

Are you tired, overwhelmed or frustrated by your child’s rebellious and dishonest attitude? Do you feel as if no matter how and what you say to your children, they will still not listen to you? If the answers to these two questions are “yes”, then the time has come for you to find out that your child might have developed one of the many neurological and conduct disorders psychology has investigated in the last decade. Knowing exactly why your children behave the way they do can help you build a better parenting framework for difficult situations long-term.

ADHD or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a neurobiological disorder usually characterized by the inability to pay attention for more than 5 minutes, impulsivity and hyperactivity. This cocktail of typically ADHD behaviour can drive some parents mad for years, making it difficult for the child to socialize or stay in school, but with a proper diagnosis and special medical treatment your child could have a normal life. It is very important to address this problem as soon as you spot the three differentiating disorder characteristics and try not to blame the child for his inability to conform to your rules. Even with medication, children with ADHD or ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) can still be difficult to deal with, however with a few tips you will manage to calm things down:

· Engage the child daily in a wide variety of games and mental challenges

· Make homework fun and try to develop their problem solving skills

· Try not to give them the right answer to a problem, but slowly walk them through the process

· Teach them that sudden outbursts of energy are not a threat or something wrong, but a source they can exploit within specific circumstances and that can be eventually controlled

Oppositional Defiant Disorder or ODD is a conduct disorder widely spread amongst children of all ages and it is normally characterized by hostility, dishonesty, extreme stubbornness, spitefulness, refusal to comply with any rules, rebelliousness and disrespect. When you child exhibits some of these symptoms it is time to approach the problem from a psychotherapeutic point of view. Once your child has the tools to cope with day-to-day life your job is to be consistent in your attitude towards him and following a few tips:

· Set out specific rules and make sure the child understands and conforms to them

· Lower your voice whenever he/she wants to argue or stirs up a conflict

· Be patient and explain to the child each time the consequences of their actions and make sure they understand the difference between good behaviour and misbehavior

· Avoid having a negative approach towards the child and calmly deal with their angry attitude

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/7306122

By Abigail Simmons

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